Archive for March, 2010

“Dont Forget to Smell the Roses”

March 30, 2010

The “sum total” of what we are and who we are cannot be fully grasped until we ourselves have added it up and are able to give people the answer, not in words but in how we live, and what we leave behind. 

Age has a way of coming to the answer easier than youth, because in youth we tend to busy with running after some things and away from others, we tend to be caught up within ourselves trying to figure out who and what we are and want and why?  As I stated in another of my blogs you have to become a “simplifier” rather than a “complicator” (I really like that quote), not that one has to become simple-minded but that after all the running (done in one’s youth) you stop and realize where you are and what the race was all about.

So to the young I say keep running, you need to wear off that pent-up energy and need to learn who you are and what you want, to those in-between, slow down a little take time to tie your shoe before you go on to the next leg of the race, and to those like me who are coasting take time to savor the last mile, breathe deeply the air, feel the coolness of the wind blowing across your body that by now is perspiring and by all means “Don’t Forget to Smell the Roses”.

(dedicated to my Dad)



March 29, 2010

To be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it.  Confucius

Just as we all need forgiveness and part of that forgiveness is to forgive ourselves we also too need to forgive those who have hurt us in order to move on in life.  The concept is not new, and has been around for many years, if we let what has been done to us eat us up on the inside our life never seems to move on, we tend to rehash the “what if’s” and never see the “what could be’s”.

The quote above is from the old chinese philosopher, has been restated many times over by others throughout the ages from Aristotle, to Jesus in many different ways but all with the same meaning;

“There are two primary senses for the word “forgive” generally used in this context: to excuse a fault or pardon (which means to release a person from punishment or penalty), and to renounce anger and resentment against a person. I suggest that the first sense is the technical or legal meaning while the second is the more personal one – and the meaning which tends to be most emphasized when we talk about forgiveness being a virtue.”  Aristotle’s Nichomachean Ethics 

“Forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors”  from the Our Father.

The point “Life is too Short Let others and yourself off the hook”  accept the other persons (and your own) apology and move on with your life!

Thoughts for the Day!

March 26, 2010

“There are simplifiers and complicators, I am a simplifier…” Judge Posner

I came across this line in a Webinar it goes along with my philosophy of KISS, Keep it Simple Stupid, one that I have tried to follow all my life so if you are stressing out, feeling like you are about to explode, step back and take a minute to examine the situation, ask yourself How can I simplify matters?  Then go back to the job at hand with a new perspective, “it works”.

Also, on a nice day like today take time to tell those you love, that “you love them”  just for who they are!

Have a Good Day!

History of the Family

March 25, 2010

When I was young, family was everything, the family included Great Grand Parents, Great Aunts and Great Uncles, 2nd Cousins, 1st Cousins, Cousins and all matter of the extended generations.  You knew those from whom you were decended and knew those who came after you, the Family Tree was a living breathing entity, and the homes of each were loaded with shrines to those who had gone before them and were no longer amongst us, but they were often remembered by the stories that were told each time the family, met.

Then came the 70’s, and it was the time of “doin your own thing” and then came the era of the “nuclear family”, the time when those who were doing their own thing started moving away, starting again as if they sprang out of the ground with no past, just a present and a future.  Families began to be self contained units of individuals with only limited ties to any previous generation (except immediate parental units), hence the term “nuclear family”.   I find it sad that there is a generation that does not remember, nor have they experienced being in the same room and talking to someone that lived 60, 70, 80 or even 90 years before they were born.  The stories that they missed, the information they will never have (because you cannot find it on the internet), and the feeling of connection that one experiences from being “family“.

Today however, I have seen somewhat of a resurrgence, people are starting to ask the question, “who am I and from whom do I come”?  Lately even the media has been producing shows about people in search of their “Roots” and the internet is loaded with websites which link to huge amounts of data about everyone and anybody from billions of documents being scanned into them so that people can access where and when great-grandpa and great-grandma first came to “America”.    It’s a start in the right direction, but it’s not the same, I myself am in the process of building a family tree, the difference is that for the most part “I knew these people” that I am entering into the tree.

What’s my answer, stay connected, make memories with all those that are “FAMILY”, do not go nuclear, we all have precious little time here, so we should spend at least part of it getting to know those who came before us, for I believe you cannot truly know yourself until you know from whence you came.


March 24, 2010

The minute you mention that word to people they seem to cringe, some do not let on but you can tell on the inside that their whole being is reacting like an erupting volcano spuing hot molten lava, (I have seen it in their eyes).  I have for years wondered why people react so to something that many times ends up being a positive rather than a negative. I have even wondered is it due to some kind of womb syndrome that people still cling to long after leaving it, and becoming a full adult?  Would it be because we all really feel more comfortable being a large fish in a really small pond, (feeding our ego)?  I have seen grown men and women nash and wail over even a minor change to any facet of their job, routine, avenue of travel, and it amazes me the lengths that they will go to, to try and “change” things back to the “right” way according to their perspective.

In my view “change” is “growth” and “growth” leads to “knowledge” so that the more I change, and experience change the more I grow and the more I know.  So I say to the world embrace “change” get up in the morning and throw your coat over the fence and then go chase it, who knows what you will find!

Education vs Knowledge

March 24, 2010
I have been thinking lately about the question of Education; America and the world’s preoccupation with running around to try and find a solution to educating our young people and future generations endowing them with what we have learned.  We want to pass down or in today’s venacular to download what we have learned to them to use in their lives, to hopefully give them the tools to live better, longer, richer.  We seem to be running around trying everything we know to force feed the some total of what we have learned into their conscienceness.  We have even created the internet to download to in hopes that they will search, google, twitter and tweet their way through all of the information amassed  on the internet and somehow finally learn from there all those things we have stored.
I believe that we are on the wrong track, that we may be failing them, we may be able to educate however education is not a substitiute for knowledge.  Yes there is a difference, a vast difference, education is no more that the teaching (even if by rote) of theroms, formulas, facts, etc, but knowledge is something totally different.
Knowledge is gained by a person only when they experience and believe what it is they are learning and make those experiences and beliefs part of their life.  Yes the concept of 2 + 2 equaling 4 is still just as valid but instead of memorizing it as a fact, it now becomes much more, the knowledge of the concept of addition is much more important than the numbers; sad to say that many of the young people today have not been taught the concept, or not caught on to it, but rather have settled (as we have allowed them to) to just memorize the information.

Pa’s First Blog

March 24, 2010

It has taken me some time to get in the mood to write again, and what better way then to start a blog.  If I get real adventureous I may even allow other to view it outside my family.  I plan to write about many things but mostly those thngs which I have a deep affinity for and feel very strongly about.  I do not expect that all will share my views but that is the nice thing about this medium, it doesn’t matter.